Friday, February 16, 2007

the Mistress has a new man

Wow. I mentioned that Sexy Englishman asked me out for Thursday, right? Well, we did go out last night, but that was our 4th date. It's been a whirlwind courtship... we spent Sunday night together, as I mentioned in the last post. We had dinner at this fantastic lower east side Italian place ápizz Monday, & afterwards I came up for "just a minute" which turned into another sleepover, although this time with more sleep. Oh I wanted him so much. However, I managed to keep my panties on - although I lost all my other clothes. Still no sex & no pressure from him. I've been pretty sick all week with a frightening cough, which hasn't stopped us for a minute. I can't breathe the cold air outside so Wednesday, Valentine's Day, he came over with champagne, strawberries & a rose. (Oddly enough, my apartment is filled with flowers at the moment. I got a beautiful white orchid from work last Thursday, irises from the ex for my birthday, & roses from Tech Exec for v day. Because a made-up commercial holiday is so much more important than my birthday. Jackass.) SE is such a sweetheart. We got takeout & snuggled on the sofa semi-watching his favorite movie Heat, which he was astounded I had. I'm an action &/or hot babes kind of movie girl, what can I say? He took care of dizzy, feverish lil' me & I think he may actually have kissed my fever away.

Yesterday we had conveyor belt sushi at a Japanese place by his apartment, which was absolutely fascinating. I did not know there was such a thing, it made eating really fun. I mean SE & I were smooching the whole time, so it was already fun, but the moving food was cool. He's going to Puerto Rico this weekend with friends & I was supposed to help him pack but we couldn't stop fooling around. He begged me to take my thong off & I couldn't resist any more so I told him I would if he'd give me boxers to wear. Later, when we "went to bed", the boxers ended up on the floor & we finally did it. & I actually got to finish, which almost never happens & was really mind-blowing. Damn, I knew taking my panties off was dangerous. :) But I'm happy, he's my boyfriend now, & I'll break up with everyone when I get back.

Leaving for South America tomorrow morning - my aunt is going through some personal stuff & my mother deputized me to go be a comfort & help since she can't leave the kids. I'll be away for 2 weeks, not looking forward to it so much but I can work on my Spanish & Chinese (that's all auntie speaks) & catch up on practicing. Please let there be an internet cafe by her house, I don't know what I'll do if I'm cut off from NYC civilization for the whole time. SE & I promised we will behave while we're apart. He's going to France for a week with buddies right before I get back, so it'll be 3 whole weeks. I wanted to wait to have sex until then but I suppose I gave us something to look forward to. This is so weird, I have a boyfriend again. I hope it turns out well.

Monday, February 12, 2007

birthday weekend extravaganza draws to a close

Yes, I'm a total princess & celebrated my birthday all weekend. My friends pulled through for me & made it awesome. I could have relaxed, it would have turned out great anyway - I have to learn how to be calm & let things work themselves out a lot more. Friday was very upsetting because Tech Exec disappeared again. He upset me already Wednesday at the client dinner, & we were supposed to have plans Saturday which I wanted to confirm except he didn't respond to me all day Friday. I don't know why I was surprised he started acting a fool again. So I was trying very hard & failing not to be depressed, when my friends Fledgling Designer & Cute Gay Guy were like come on let's have dinner! They took me to an adorable & yummy izakaya (Japanese tapas) called Kasadela in the east village & were just so sweet & cheerful that I perked right up & finally started having fun. We bounced around from China 1 to Lotus to Remix afterhours, & then hung out at CGG's house as usual.

Saturday, Nice Lawyer took me to Macelleria, where we shared the porterhouse & people looked at me strangely for wearing a little black dress & my new Proenza Schouler boots. It was very cold but I wanted to dress up. We had a drink at the Gansevoort while waiting for my friends to figure out where they wanted to go, then joined them at Double Happiness for more drinking. We popped downtown to some house party that turned out to be at my ex-boyfriend's building - freaky, we were on the floor below his! - & after frantically digging for our coats for about 45 minutes, we finally arrived at Penthouse with Fledgling Designer & another friend of ours. It is my favorite strip club & that night was absolutely amazing. Most of the time, even though that's the best club in Manhattan, I would say 50% of the girls are smokin' hot. Saturday, it was 80%. Like knock me over with a feather, drop-dead gorgeous. I got lots of lapdances & I was so excited, it's a good thing Nice Lawyer isn't pushy or I might actually have slept with him. He isn't much for staying out late & opted to go home when the rest of us decided on Korean barbecue after Penthouse said, "Gentlemen, put your dicks & wallets back in your pockets, it's closing time!" No they didn't but it sounds funnier that way. My friends laughed when I kissed NL good night & sent him on his way & said I was truly sadistic - it was his choice though, he could have asked me to come home or stayed out. & I was so hot I probably would have gone with him. Instead we ate like little piggies & that was good too.

Sunday I went to the gym, saw Prince Charming there, got several happy birthday phone calls & texts from unexpected people, & picked a nice outfit for dinner (Chanel skirt + see-through glittery black top). It ended up being 10 of us at Porcão, my favorite Brazilian steakhouse. Yes, I had meat all weekend & I like it that way. Dinner was so much fun!! Everyone got along famously, everyone was sweet to me, & I think someone told them to make my strawberry caipiroskas especially strong. So yummy. Afterwards we went over to Young Entrepreneur's loft (one of the hot guys from a prior post) since he's a few blocks away & drank some more. We were going to try for Milk & Honey but got distracted. & then, the high point of my whole weekend, his flatmate Sexy Englishman came home. We had bonded over books at their super bowl party the weekend before but their other friend was hitting on me & I didn't know SE liked me so I didn't really think about it. He emailed me the next day though, & asked me out a few days later for Thursday this week. On Sunday we started talking & realized we were really into each other. I decided to stay a bit longer & not share a cab home with the erstwhile favored friend. We were talking in SE's room - at one point he just leaned in & kissed me, & after extensive making out I ended up staying the whole night. We didn't do it although we fooled around all night. Literally. We fell asleep from exhaustion about 45 minutes before he had to get up for work.

Which is why I'm posting at such an ungodly early-for-me hour... I fell asleep again after he left, & just got home now. I can't remember ever being this into a guy (except maybe Prince Charming, but he's so flaky I've learned not to pay attention to those feelings). He gets me sooo excited & we have so much in common & I'm thinking about him right now with a smile on my face. We just find each other completely fascinating & yummy & keep discovering new adorable little quirks. I told him my current celibacy rule - no sex before we're in a relationship - & not only did he not pressure me about it the way Tech Exec did, he was totally sweet & understood without me having to explain any of the bad things that have made me that scared. I think this might be my new boyfriend. Wish me luck!

Saturday, February 10, 2007

yo shorties, it's my birthday!

Yay, it's my birthday!! I was actually really depressed all week because I'm freaked out about getting older, the birthday weekend extravaganza planning was a huge headache, & a couple other bad things happened, but my close friends were such sweethearts last night that I am actually happy about my big day finally. They are throwing me a little "surprise" party tonight & I have to go get dressed for dinner with Nice Lawyer before that so I will tell you guys all about the festivities later!!

Monday, February 05, 2007

my girl likes to party all the time, party all the time...

That's such a funny sounding song. I've been out a lot, I guess celebrating my return to halfway decent health... Friday I had a busy bee day. I went to the gym, ran errands, had a fabulous lunch at Rosa Mexicano with Fashionista & our friend Fledgling Designer, ran more errands, & then hair appointment. Afterwards I was supposed to have dinner with Jewish Princess & her guy, but she inconsiderately forgot to tell me that they were eating at home & were pretty much done. She's been really irritating lately. Her life is in upheaval & I've been doing her a ton of favors, & it's not that she's not grateful or a lovely person but I just do not have the time & energy to take care of her. She has no conception of time or money & keeping her life in some sort of shape is a full-time job. I can't deal with it any more. Also, her boy wants to have a 3-way with a domme & we talked about that maybe being me & I think she freaked out that he's so attracted to me. We decided against it after some fraught conversation. Anyway, we went to a party in the West Village where I met up with Fashionista, Cute Gay Guy, Girlfriend & a bunch of other friends who don't know each other, so it was a really fun random party. I saw Shopping Buddy, whom I haven't seen in ages (poor girl lives in Queens), & met some hot guys who know another friend of mine. We ended up at CGG's place & I got home around noon the next day.

Saturday was a bust for that reason - Fashionista was having a tapas party at 7 so by the time I woke up from my nap all I had time to do was chat with Girlfriend on the phone & take a shower. F is a terrific cook! For some reason I was not hungry so only could eat a few bites. Finally the Girlfriend came out with me & met my other circle of friends. & Tech Exec came by to see me there... he apologized for everything, begged forgiveness & basically tried to demonstrate how much he loves me & wants me back. Later we went to Cielo & then I was finally hungry but Pastis wasn't serving anymore (at 2:30, I don't get it, thought they were 24/7) so we got takeout at his house. & I steadfastly refused to sleep with him or do anything, which was the worst possible punishment. He was incredibly frustrated, though I reminded him that I don't trust him & I am not sleeping with any guy until I'm in a committed relationship. I'm surprised he's actually willing to go through all this. Maybe he's for real this time.

Sunday was a fun, drunken super bowl party at the hot guys' loft. I discovered that I really like one of them, who's English & a banker. I also kinda like his friend though, who definitely wants me. Then Fashionista dragged me downtown & we ended up falling asleep on this girl's couch watching L Word - I know, lame, we didn't even fool around. We woke up & left around 11 & I've been so tired & cold all day that I woke up again around 5pm & stayed in to practice. I guess I don't party all the time.

Friday, February 02, 2007

finally a session

It's been a bit slow at the dungeon this month, at least for me since I have so few regular clients, so I was really glad to be called in yesterday. It was a four-mistress session & let's just say this small puffball of a man dropped some serious money in 2 hours. It was great - we basically took turns, & I just beat & humiliated him for about 45 minutes & got paid for all 2 hours at a higher-than-normal rate plus a handsome tip. Thank goodness, that paid half my rent. Although I still have my very large Amex bill due soon & I'm sure I don't know where that money is coming from. I met with another dungeon owner last week, & she offered to put me on her staff, but I'd only be earning half my current take-home rate. She promised I'd make around $1k/week but I decided that I'd rather not cheapen myself. Also, the whole point of being a freelance dominatrix is that I get to make my own schedule, not work all the time. If I wanted to work shifts, I might as well get a "real" job. Oh well. I'll figure something out. Or starve, either way. Just kidding. :)